Control.

Our business attitude might often parallel our relationship attitude. Those who want to succeed in life, those who accept nothing less than success, we strive to make everything work. As a smart friend once said, “You believe that when you work hard at something, when you put your heart and passion into it, you expect it to work.” Isn’t that the truth?

I am ambitious, I set goals and I do everything in my power to achieve them… So when something doesn’t go as planned, I am shocked, critical and not sure what I could have done better. I seek the constructive criticism that comes with work and school and in a relationship, there is not always something that “went wrong” or could have been controlled.

And that is a difficult concept to swallow.

Not everything goes awry due to an intentional or unintentional action. Often times it is because of emotions, situations or again, timing.

So the business concepts of not giving up and working hard to make things work become less important in personal matters. We must understand that giving up on a relationship that isn’t working is okay. Working hard to make things work and having them fall apart is okay. These are not things we can necessarily control and if we could, think about those dangers.

Not everything can be controlled. Emotions are emotions and the idea of not giving up and trying to fix what is broken sometimes become useless morals in love. So, give up when you should, know that not everything can be fixed… but when you know your heart is right, fight for what you want and fix what you can…

The key is to know what is a matter of business and your brain, what is a matter of the heart and which reigns in each situation.

Now that is something to ponder…